Are All The Good Ladies Taken? How To Find A Good Woman

I’m reminded of a secular song I heard long time ago that says, “Why are all the good girls taken every time, every time I say hallo, they say goodbye.”

Men who have been hurt or who have used woman inappropriately will find it hard to believe decent woman exist. Others might have seen bad examples from their mothers, sisters and friends and decided that women are not worth it.

I have some good news for you: All the good ladies are not taken. In every generation, God always has a remnant of people who have not defiled themselves. There are many good girls out there but not just any man will have them.

How To Find A Good Lady:

# 1: Be A Good Man
A good lady deserves a good man. And it takes a good man to get a good woman. What are you doing to become a better man? Can you communicate well? Can you lead, love and learn her? Do you have those qualities that you seek in a good woman? Are you well groomed? Are you ready to serve her?

When you do your best to become a good man, not a perfect man, you are most likely to know a good woman when you meet one.

# 2: Know The Qualities Of The Good Lady You Desire
Do you have a picture in your mind of the kind of woman you desire? What are those qualities you seek – God-fearing, respectful, jolly, loving? Though physical beauty is important to us as men, let it never come at the expense of the inner beauty.

Write those qualities down. And don’t make the mistake of searching for a perfect woman, you will never find one. We are all saints in the making.

# 3: Ask And Trust God For The Good Lady
No one in the world would love you to get a good woman than God. If you are his child, then you can boldly present to him the qualities of the kind of woman you desire in your life. God takes pleasure in giving good gifts to those who ask him.[1]

“Trust in the Lord and do good. Take delight in the Lord and he will give you your heart’s desire. Commit everything you do to the Lord. Trust him and he will help you.”[2]

# 4: Wait For Your Good Lady
At this point, it’s time to wait. This is the place where most men give up and choose to fight for themselves instead of waiting on God. Don’t settle for less. Keep your hands empty to receive the good God has prepared for you.

Determine to wait for your good woman. When she comes, she will make you forget all the days you waited for her. God makes everything beautiful in its time.

“For since the world began, no ear has heard and no eye has seen a God like you, who works for those who wait on him.”[3]

And when you find her, God will be waiting on you to act.

There is a good woman out there for you, will she find you ready when she comes!

Scripture Reference
[1] Matt 7:11 [2] Psalm 37:3-5 [3] Isaiah 64:4

by Hirwa G. Israel

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Jeff August 3, 2012 at 4:35 pm

I followed pretty much everything this says and ended up 44 and still single. In retrospect a more pragmatic approach would have been better. Mrs. ‘good enough’ is better than Mrs. ‘no show’


Luna (alias) March 22, 2013 at 9:40 pm

i don’t think any article or steps can tell you how to find a sure fire way to get a mate. Such articles should just be taken as possible helpful tips, imo. The circumstances surrounding finding companionship can be very complex because people and circumstances are very multifaceted. I’m 40. A born again Christian. ( not a beginner) I’ve been faithful to wait and I’m still single. It does get old but there is hardly anything I can do about it, so I’m not bitter. I could be aggressive like I was when I wasn’t serving the Lord but I learned a long time ago that approaching men doesn’t get the results I’m looking for. Men accept out of being flattered not because they would have originally done so. I would prefer to hv a man who wants to be with me from the get go.

I don’t know why men don’t approach me or even ask me out for coffee. Through the years I wondered about this so much that I stated changing myself to see if it was this or that. I now just accept who I am. Most men in my age bracket are divorced with children. I use to act as if I had to settle for thar.

Settling got me nowhere. So now I accept that about myself too. I accept that I’m a great catch and if no man knows it then it is what it is. I’m fit. Employed. No X to worry about. No interfering family or friend. No kids. Educated. Giving. Passionate. I strive to live my life according to Gods word. I’m debt free. creative with a huge sense of dry humor. I believe in being humble and learning. and so on. I use to think there was something wrong with me. But life is too short to be unhappy. I’m a great catch! I now think I deserve the equal to what I bring to the table. I tried selling myself short and also settling for men that didn’t bring equality to the table. So why not just live happy? Why not accept that the portion of Jesus Christ is enough. Maybe some day an equal and honorable man will approach me and take the time to know all the wonderful things I am. (Since the age of 6 I knew I would never hv children) This isn’t something I advertise and men don’t even ask me out on a first date so that’s not the reason.

I’ve been single, without being asked out, for 9 yrs. Yesterday that streak was broken when a gentleman asked for my number. Unfortunately he’s not dedicated to God and has grandchildren. It was nice to experience a man who had the courage.

I refuse to live my life speculating about the other sex. I’ll just keep spending holidays alone but count my many blessings. Praise God and count it all joy!

If I had any advise to give the men it would be, I know it’s hard but get up the courage. Fear of rejection will definitely keep you single.


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